I find this article very positive. As a mostly closeted lesbian (I live in a very anti-gay community, but my closest friends are privy to my orientation), I like the way it points out that you do have to keep an open mind about sexuality in orientation as well as acts. It is true that the only thing that defines orientation is whether or not you conscious find yourself thinking "I want to have sex with men/women/both/all/none". I'm not saying that it is a choice. For me it definitely wasn't. I tried with all my might to force myself into fantasying about men. I was severely depressed my high school years because I thought I was defective because of my sexual preference. I have only accepted it within the last two years and started healing. I will openly admit that I did experiment with males in order to suss out if I could form a true attraction to them, but the majority of my sexuality is pointed towards females.