All right, I'm kinda having problems with my dad and the music I listen too and the shows I watch. (1.)First off: Music. I love music. I listen to everything out there. My dad has a problem with it though. I listen to a lot of Rob Zombie and Marilyn Manson, and he isn't too big of a fan of both those bands. He thinks Brian Hugh Warner is just...stupid. And Rob Zombie, well, he doesn't want that because he has nudity in his movies, and his music is pretty negative. I really don't see the problem with it, now, he doesn't know one of my all time favorite songs is "Doctor Online" by Zeromancer,(I'd die for that) but I'm not sure what to do about this. He thinks it has a bad influence over me. I don't think so. It gives me a creative mind, that helps me role-play, which in turn, helps me with my language skills to some point. -Marilyn Manson. My dad doesn't like Brian Hugh Warner at all, he thinks he is ridiculous and I shouldn't listen to his music because it 1. Of his band name(even though it is meant to show the iconic difference in society) and because his music often relates to sex. 2.Rob Zombie-Pretty plain out there-he was a pornographer and consists of a lot of nudity and violence in his movies, and not only that, but his music is some what negative. I can't really see what is so bad about it. Its made ot be horror music. ex://"Hell of Hound, you cry, devil on your back, I will never die" (2.) Shows. My dad is aggravating me A LOT with this one. He doesn't really have a problem with me having watched Wolf's Rain or Ginga Densetsu Weed. But whenever he sees me watching AMV's with the fighting in it, he just thinks its a show about dog fighting, and whenever I draw something like a dog he always says "Yeah, a dog tearing off another dogs head, or having it gushing blood." Now, don't get me wrong. I do draw violent pictures of dogs fighting(from GDW or Wolfs Rain for examp.) but I never show him. And I'm getting pretty tired of him referring to every picture I make, as violent, because its a picture of a wolf or dog, and I he has seen what I watch. Any ideas of what I should do?
Your dad is just being a dad. Adults aren't going to like all music their kids listen to and vice versa. Marilyn Manson and Rob Zombie both are not what my parents appreciated me listening to either but they grew used to me listening to what I want and we kind of understood the types of music we'd both listen to so that we wouldn't drive each other nuts. Basically, I kept my music to a low roar and we all found music that when together we could all stand to hear. You might want to consider playing your music a bit softer, showing your parents you also like other music besides those two bands by listening to alternate groups that aren't so hardcore and also, maybe try hanging out with your parents a bit more so they see you aren't distancing yourself and becoming absorbed in 'hate' music. Your dad may just feel you are listening to these two bands too much and it is causing you to seem rather distant, violent, aggressive and that it isn't healthy for you. Show him that you listen to other stuff, you are outgoing and amiable. This will quell his worries about the types of music you listen to. He may never like that music, of course, but he would learn to accept you listening to it and not be so compelled to be worried.
Explain to your dad that its your life and you can do what you want in it. Also tell him what you've told US. Tell him that rob zombies music is SUPPOSED to be negative band they do NOT contain nudity in the words. SHOW him your pictures of the nice friendly dogs and wolves and do the whole getting upset thing you know n ot quite crying but a sort "How could you think that is violent its just a hharmless wolf!" Then just run away making him feel like the bad guy and he'll go up to you and apologize then it SHOULD all be sorted. I hope that helped if it didn't I am so so sorry. But Thats ALL I can come up with.
I've never used speakers...Ever. I always use headphones. He likes to stand over my shoulder when I'm listening to something, and I can't change it or else he will complain. He just isn't interested in it. He thinks its all the same no matter what I say. He wouldn't watch the show. I tried once and he didn't bother to even listen or watch. Not so much that, but more of the fact when I mention it he doesn't want to watch it. For my art, I do show my dad the pictures I'm happy with and he'll just say "That's nice," and not really look at it. I have given him some of my drawings.
All parents are like that, they have to get up your ass to a certain degree. But, they can't change who you are..They just want to try to lead you in the right direction.He thinks the music is un-called for and maybe it is sorta..But if you like it he will eventually understand and except it because it makes you happy and you can relate to it.
