Ever since about March, I've been hanging out pretty frequently with this person I found myself really wanting to become good friends with. Things were okay during the school year, but over the summer I started getting this impression that she didn't really feel as invested, I guess, into the friendship as I was, and I talked to her about it on Saturday. Not gonna go over every detail we talked about, but the main points were that we both were doing something that was annoying the other one a bit; I ended up staying at her place a few times for long periods of time due to ride troubles, and didn't notice I kept sitting shoulder to shoulder w/ her a lot, and whenever we did something, it always had to be me who set up doing stuff a lot of the time. That part was fine and dandy, but the part that ended up really hitting me the most was that it turned out we didn't view our friendship the same way. I thought we had become much closer from hanging out and sharing really personal stuff about our lives, and considered her a "primary" friend, someone who I'd actively seek out when I had free time. She, on the other hand, sees me as a "secondary" friend, someone who breaks up the monotony a bit and that she enjoys being around, but not someone she seeks out at all. And I just feel really hurt about it. Not only was I totally wrong about our friendship, but I spent so much time, and put so much effort into trying to do things with her and work on being open with her, just to know now that she was never really going to return that effort at all. I tried to see if there was some way we could both compromise, since we both expressed still enjoying being together and our relationship to one another, but she said that she probably wouldn't want to because she's very goal oriented (focusing on school, her job on campus, and whatnot), and that I (and most people, really) don't really fit into where she wants to choose to spend her free time. Logically, I know the easiest solution would be for me to just do it her way, and that we'd still be good. But I also know that I'm really hurting, and honestly pretty irritated, that it feels like I, once again, opened up to someone and let myself feel like we were close only to find out I didn't really matter as much to them, and just...wasted time and myself on trying to build a close friendship that was never really gonna take off.