Help with Life Guideline

Help with Life Guideline

The purpose of the Help with Life section is to assist one another with our daily strife issues, some bad things that happen, etc. Hopefully, people can help one another in the end to take on a new day with better meaning and motivation.

The forums though is PG-13. Keeping this in mind, members need to post within these parameters. This is not an area to post the following:

1. Suicide threats - We simply cannot do much for you if you feel you are going to commit suicide. Do not post these threads please. It's one thing if you are depressed, but it's another to make a suicide letter where members feel desperate to do something but do not know if they can or not. Whether you like it or not, flat out, suicide threats are selfish and bring on a world of hurt to many people other than just you.

Suggestion: - if you feel that you are very depressed and troubled, this section was made so that we could assist with coming up with solutions other than suicide as an option. Please post what the problems are so that we can help you address them instead of a suicide note. This will put you in a better mental frame and also allow others to take the problem serious but not make others stressed as well. Come here to post with having another resolution desired and perhaps you will get one.

2. Threads that condone violence - Basically, no threads pertaining to beating the snot out of someone, crippling someone or worse. Also, do not make suggestions that encourage someone to do an act that would get anyone sent to a Detention Home or prison.

Suggestion: Encourage people dealing with aggressive others to seek out assistance, stand up for themselves, etc. If you've done some violent act, we don't need to know about it. All we could suggest is that you do the right thing and come forward to who matters in your life.

3. No Graphic Sexual Threads - If something traumatic has happened to you, you can post about it but watch how graphic you go and do not get explicit with things. We can attempt to help someone but we are not psychiatrists here so please consider this.

Suggestion: If you wish to talk to someone, ask in a thread if someone who is an adult will talk with you in PM in regards to your situation. Perhaps legally and mentally they can offer more support and it keeps the site rating where it is.

Basically, in the end, this area is a place where all of us can vent, talk important issues out and help others to come up with solutions that are the most positive decisions we can muster. If something is -very- serious, we simply may not be able to help you and you may require professional help or assistance from parents, a school counselor or some trusted person in your life.

If you really need someone to talk to over a very dire circumstance, some of us such as CtR or me are adults and we may be able to assist you with issues that are severe. However, again, we are not psychiatrists so we can only aid you so much. Basically, don't expect miracles here. We all do our best and everyone so far has taken this section seriously, so we don't have many smartasses who put others down. If you have any questions regarding what is appropriate or not, feel free to PM a member of staff and we will be glad to aid you.

A rule specifically for here as well.

1. On Threads that Declare Poster Will Aid Others Who Post Problems There
Do not do these. Most people know not to post threads that ask others to post in them so that the person can respond to the problems and issues. The Help with Life area is NOT about a person with no problems who wants to help others. Each thread made pertains to someone who WANTS assistance. This person could care less who he/she gets help from so stop making threads that are self-absorbed so that someone would feel compelled to post there.

Suggestion: This is not a Dear Abby column where anyone merits that kind of attention or recognition for aiding others in your own thread. If you wish to help, PLEASE do so, but in the threads that already exist. Anyone who seriously spends time aiding others is appreciated. Just please do not feel compelled to make a thread yourself that is for general aid. You won't have all the answers and one person's opinion is not better than several.