GirlFriend/Boyfriend Help thread

well life in unpredictable, like i said get really in with eachother and become a couple as soon as possible if you want to stay. though i doubt your parents would stop their plans because of a girl, i know my parents never have

 

i know... but i though Christmas was a good moment to tell her...

 

Let me ask you this: Does it feel right (to you) to do this right now (at Christmas, I mean)?

 

christmas is a great moment for a first kiss but not so great for telling your feelings its to overdone and a bit to cheesy if you ask me

 

well... to kiss her might be right... but im not sure myself if telling her...the "original" plan was to kiss her... and im holding to it... the telling my feelings part, is something i just thought of...

 

It feels so cheezy >< BUT it is sooo sweet and thoughtful that you should if you want to =]

But, you need to get to know this girl more. Make sure she OPENS THE PRESENT right in front of you.

anyways, I think you should kiss her on the cheek. It will show that you like her but don't want to kiss her yet. I know you want to kiss her, but you need to make her want to kiss you. so kiss her on the cheek after she opens her present ;)

 

i just thought you should get in with her as soon as possible, you wouldnt want her gettign a different boyfriend now would you, because that wouldnt go great with your plans

 

You definitely do not sound sure about yourself. Because of that, I would not recommend you kissing her on Christmas. Yes, it sounds romantic, but that would send her so many signals, and the fact that you would leave in February (even if you have a chance to come back) would leave her hurt and confused in so many ways.

If something happens between you two and she gathers that you care about her, that's one thing, and it's okay. But unless you know, with absolute, 100% certainty that you would come back to her from a trip (and this is like a few months tops), you shouldn't kiss her.

 

*takes notes**she need to open the present right in front of me*
okay, hmm.. i need to make her kiss me... so i should kiss her in the cheek at first, right?...
man, this is really getting harder than i thought it would be...
maybe because ive never had a GF before? (i know... its sad....)
and guys... i just asked, and it seems like theres 50% chance for me to stay if I want to

 

Join the club. I'm 21, I've got you beat on 'sad'.

 

ok well youve heard my part to help you, im outta here

 

really? well, ill join the club then...
hmm... but im VERY sure about this... im really in love with her... i think this is up to me...

ok, thanks thelightisgone123

 

Whatever choice you make, I hope it goes well for you. Good luck, willi.

 

Yes good luck =] I hope you and her go together. I'm a romance nut ><

 

thanks!
gotta go for now... seeya!

 

I would just like to say to everyone who says "Get to know her better" that, sometimes a spontaneous romance is better than slow paced romance.

So, despite what people say, I still say do it.

 

If you've been classmates for years as well as friends it's really a make of break thing. You could either come off ridiculously charming with a kiss (on the cheek I assume, because lips pushes it), or you may turn a healthy friendship into something awkward.

 

Yeah, that 'sometimes' depends on whether or not the other person actually likes you.

Being spontaneously romantic when the other person only sees you as a friend--hell, even an acquaintance--is just asking for trouble.

"Getting to know her better" isn't a statement to take it slow, it can just as easily mean you better make sure you know what you're getting yourself into before attempting to be 'spontaneous'.

 

Well how long have you known this girl for? Cause that could make a difference.

 

Yeah you should totally do it =D