Okay so, Ive known this girl since the 6th grade and we are in the 8th. It was just this year that I particularly started liking her. During the first semester I started flirting a little bit and I asked her to go out with me but she said she liked my friend. They started dating but then they split up and she is single now. I asked her if she still liked him and she said no but she still misses being with someone. So I wondered if this was my chance to make my move. But I didnt, and she is beautiful, so almost every desperate person in the 8th grade stands by her locker ever morning and stuff because they want to be with her so bad. But I never go there while they are there because i dont want to look like those stalkers. I probably know the most about her not including her ex, family, and bestfriend. Then we had our 8th grade foral dance and she looked beautiful. I was going to dance with her and she was aware of it. But other girls started asking for dances and I never got to dance with her and I danced with them on a slow song just because im that nice. While I was dancing with one of the other girls I noticed she was dancing with this other guy who is one of those "stalkers". I dont have a problem with that because I know she would never tell them no because she is nice like that. But when I saw them dancing, I got this feeling down in my stomach and ever since then I havent been able to get her off my mind. She talks to me more offten then she does other boys, she introduced me to her parents, and has told me things that she usually wouldnt tell the whole world. So Im wondering what this feeling is. Is it just jealousy, am I in love, or is it just lust because she is hot and im just like the other "stalker" boys. What do you guys think?
Don't. Rebounds are often the worst kind of relationship you can be in, someone always ends up hurt. As far as the feeling goes, it is really up to yourself to figure it out. Considering you're only in 8th grade, it might be just that she is attractive, but it could of course also be actual feelings. The feeling in your stomach, is quite simple. It's jealousy. This may be an indication that you do have feelings, but once again, whether or not they are built on something other than her attractiveness to you, that is close to impossible to tell. And don't feel like a "stalker" boy. It's common for guys to want to be with a girl if she is attractive, it's biology. Once again, it's almost impossible for someone besides yourself to define what love is. It's impossible as it is subjective. However, from what I can see in what you've written, you probably have feelings for her. But for all I know it is only due to her appearance. But hey, maybe not. Now, here's the difficult part. Tell her how you feel. Keep in mind though, if you become a rebound, one of you, if not, will probably end up getting hurt. But I prefer, personally, to tell a girl if I think I have feelings for her. I wouldn't go as far as to call it love, though. You may love her as a friend, but I wouldn't say you "Love, Love" her. If you did, you wouldn't have to ask about it. Let me know if any of this makes sense to you.
So . . . y'all guys are in middle school? I see . . . I'm prejudice against age and love, and mostly believe that anyone in middle school is too young to love someone. Do you know what it means to love? To be half of a whole? Do you really feel like that about this girl? Perhaps your mind is exaggerating. Two years . . . well, at that age, you've still got time before you get to high school, and then it'll be like "holy crap, I love her - no, I love her, no her!" because that's how it goes a lot of the time. I see this as a crush. And I also find it demeaning to describe a girl as "hot", she's not a burning piece of coal or a poker. Plus, I advise you to not call people names like "stalker", because you really have no idea what stalkers are and what they're capable of. The boys like her just as you do, but that doesn't really give you the right to call them something disgusting like that. Maybe she likes you too - maybe you guys will start going out, and then still be together through high school, and then get married some time after. It's happened. Maybe you'll go out and she won't be everything you wanted. But for now, don't say you're in love, it makes you sound like an idiot [imo] because of how old you are.
Kay thanks guys, I really am to young to say love, i didnt really mean it totally like that but you know. I also didnt mean to offend anyone by using the word hot or stalker thats just how i talk. Because this particualr group of boys follow her ever move. But hey your right, who am I to call anyone a stalker. I like her for more than just her looks, I was just saying that so I can make sure its my heart talking and not my mid - pubesant body. Thanks helps a lot. :)
Here's my two cents. 1. It sounds like you have some feelings for this girl, I'm not gonna say love, but were gonna call them "feels","feelings","likes" for this girl, that's great! 2. Let's talk about your situation with her. Your best friends correct? Well this can be a good thing and also a bad thing. Good things: You two are pretty darn close, you know a lot about each other, you can share things with each other, you can have good time hanging out with each other, because heck, your friends. Bad things: Being close friends like that could potentially "cock-block" you in a way. She could just want to be friends with you, and nothing more, "friendzoned", this is bad. I wouldn't personally tell her how you feel until she shows signs of her liking you, otherwise this could ruin ya'lls relationship as friends. Some of the signs might be her flirting with you, if she seems jealous/flustered if she sees you talking to other girls (don't go doing this on purpose now). If she gets close to you or stuff like that. Also to quote Seiji, "don't be a rebound", this is a great way for you and probably her to get hurt. (Personal note: Most girls will still onto feelings after a relationship, so even though she says that she doesn't like him anymore, she probably still does. I'm sure some of the women around here can agree with me on that.) I don't know what your feelings are telling you, they could be jealousy, feelings of attraction, feelings of affection, I don't know. That's a thing you have to find out for yourself. And to go along with what saxima said, not to jump your ****, but let's not call me people stalkers, because I could call you one for thinking about her all the time, don't get me wrong, I think about girls that I like a lot as well a lot of the times, but let's try to be nice to the other fish in the sea (yes, your a fish, all guys are fish, and women are the fisherwomen of the sea) I hope things turn out good for you, if not, don't beat yourself up over it, you will have feelings for another girl one day, and quite possibly, she will return those feelings with feelings of her own for you.
i feel your pain always thinking about the girl you love but shy to tell her your feeling toward her that's hell for ya here's my advice, ask her out, not a date but something she should enjoy with you, ask her out 10 times then tell her "i like you"(not love). and if she said no then don't give up just because she said no one time; be more confident toward yourself.
Disagreedisagreedisagree, I disagree. I know what love is, and do you challenge that? The best I can say of your mindset is that you at least acknowledge that you are prejudiced, others don't and they think themselves universally correct. To say that a child cannot understand love is to demean them, and the thing is your view is terribly narrow. It is narrow, so broaden it. Realise that the "ability" to love is determined not by a thing as petty as age-- and yes in many a case a child is crushing, not loving-- but realise that if a child cannot love it is because they are not mature enough. And children are not manufactured in a mill, they are not all the same, each individual develops at a different pace. A child may grow to be more mature than the rest. And then, what? They are subject to the adult's generalisations, comparisons to peers and whatnot. O god, those generalisations being applied to you burn. Grit teeth, ignore, play along. Yeah, I am pissed off and it shows. Oh well. The steam will blow, anyway. Yet, I must have misread. You said, mostly believe. So then, presumably you do not fully believe, there are some exceptions... which is pretty much what I said. Doesn't it suck, when you rage for nothing. It would feel like a waste to not post this. Oh well. "Blind rage." Rage aside, I'll blindly say that our kid is crushing. He seems too possessive of her.
