Bully Counselling

I feel your pain, shadow of sephiroth. I moved to a new school (actually, I'm living with my dad now so I'm back at my old one :D) and at first I was really shy. Then I made a bunch of friends, but some of them were the wrong type, if you know what I mean. Well, one of them was pretending to be my friend and started to spread rumors about my brother. I was pissed at her, but I didn't say anything. I felt really bad though cause then everyone thought he was gay (now at my middle school back where I used to live everyone thinks he's gay, too) and it was really harsh what they said to him.

One day, the girl that was supposedly friends was bugging me for literally like 2 whole days about who I had a crush on. I told her some weird kid as a joke, and she believed me at first. Even though I was sarcastic. And then I said no, of course not and said I wouldn't tell her. That was a mistake.


She started spreading rumors that I was mentally retarted and stuffs, so I hope you guys know I'm not mentally retarted. If you think so, U PHAIL!

So now back where I used to live I am a totally quiet and unsocial person unless when I am with my good, like really best friends. People now think I am mentally retarted or something here, too, which I'm not happy about. I'm way too shy after where I was talking about before. I can't really go in and be myself, though. That would seem akward since we have like 2 weeks left (ohnoes I have exams tomorrow! D: IN HEALTH I'm scared... :P) so I can't. Even after the summer it would be strange.

You might not know it, but I am really self conscious. Sometimes I have to pretend I know stuff that I don't about latest fads and stuff, or famous people that I don't really know. It's really annoying sometimes, and I feel bad about it. I really know how you feel.

If I knew you, I'd be your friend and not just out of sympathy :D You aren't alone in this world

 

I feel your pain, too.

 

me too... ive moved school many times and each time i try to adjust my personality so i can fit in..

but i never do :(

if people knew the person i really am they would all take the mick and id have no friends
not that i have many friends.

I always feel like im the one clinging onto the group.

 

Ban please?

 

Oh my god! Im not alone! Yay! I have Asbergers too! Sadly, the name to the diesease is slightly comical, but GOD having it is hell! Wish you luck with your problems, KS!

 

When I was younger, I used to get teased a lot and it always upset me, even over the littlest things. Since I've gotten older I've just learned to ignore them. Like two weeks ago for example, this kid tried to start a fight with me by calling me a *** I ignore him completely and he hasn't talked or looked at me since. Sometimes if you ignore them, they stop.

 

Ha ha. Ohhh ya, this is a good place to tell you all a lil story about mehself ^_^

2 years ago, in school, since the very beggining, the preps (basicly popular kids, always have new clothes and everything. Girls, might want to refer to them as guy versions of the 'cheerleaders') had always been comen up to me, sayen ****, and one of them even started tryen to pretend as if he had a crush on me (basicly, they maken fun of me, callen me gay, and doin all this ****, which seriously was pathetic since they couldn't piss me off any other way, and for everyone who is gay, yes, where I am, being called gay is the most common insult you hear. I aint gay to set the record, never will be either). SO ya, it basicly went on like that, I got back at them every once and awhile, and then one day, the dude pretending he had a crush on me pissed me off to a point where I literrally sorta just blanked out for a moment (In other words, I sorta don't remember what happend. only bits and pieces), and next thing ya know, his blood on my hand, my fist in his face.

Yep, that pretty much got them pissed, since the kid was sorta their ring leader, and cuz of that, they lost a LOT of respect from other kids (like they ever really had any).

So then, say, 2 weeks later, I get the very impolite escort from the police down to the principles office, and find out that I 'supposidly' made a death threat (which was total bull, since I didn't say nothen), and that they have witnesses (witnesses can be further more known as lacky preps. Not one of them was from any other school group......), and so it broke out into a whole legal thing (settled out of court thnx God), even though if I had a bit more money, then I could've suid the preps, the school (they tricked me into saying some things. My mom found out that he was friends with some of the preps parents, and so on, and also, they kept me locked in a room for 3 hours, and made me look as if I was getting impatient or something, just to make me look bad. It happend around the time of the west virginia shooting, so they didn't care if I was innocent or not, they just wanted to get me the hell out of their school. not only that, but after I got a psychological evaluation, a woman (thank god for this woman) called up our house and wanted to make a personal evaluation because she thought it seemed a little off that a kid like me would do something, and turns out that the school told them all that I had admitted to saying all the threats, which was BULL), and the police (there was an official police officer, who aided them in doing this stuff, so the police are just as guilty).

So in the end it got settled out of court, school board found out also, and the principle quit so he wouldn't have to deal with it anymore. SPent a few months with a tutor, went to summer school, then last year I got to deal with the wonderous adventures of probation (which is still bull). and also cuz of them I failed spanish......

I am some what satisfied now though. It is a little saddening to hear, but I honostly cant say whether or not to show sympothy, but the ring leader (the kid who I punched), well, his mom died from cancer, so that basicly has f'ed up his life for good (or atleast I hope it has, cuz it didn't seem to really phase him).


So ya, just sayen the story really cuz A. I wanna actually say somethen about it now that I am off of probation, and B. if anyone here deals with these types of creeps at school, then trust me, if you are gonna throw the punch, then don't stop with one. I just thew one silly little punch. Not for nothen, but the kid deserved to get punch, and if I had kept on punching him, then that would have made him more afraid to do what he did. But I will never regret punchen that stuck up rich ******* in teh face




Oh ya, and this one don't really count, but this one should tell you how to deal with the crazies. When I was 9, there was this kid that hated me. Tall black kid (I'm a white guy, so race DID have something to do with it) started getting into fights with me after school (yes, at 9 years old, which is pretty sad for this kid), and before I found my morals of how the hell to live my life, I wouldn't fight back and I get my ass kicked (I didn't know how to fight actually. Before that, I was a pretty dam nice kid really. You know when kids go through the 'mine' stage? For me, that was the 'would you like to share?' phase, lmao). Sooo on that one, went to the principle, he didn't do nothen, and either way, this kid didn't care. Even tried choken me at some point.....(yep, there's a nice little scar for life. Last person who put their hands near by neck got elbowed in the stomach....). it stopped after a weak, but then, when he was pretenden to be chummy with me, at the bus stop, he showed me a gun that he was bringen to school......don't think it had bullets in it, but it might've just been there to scare the hell out of me. Worst part, turns out his mom was maken him do it just to get to my mom.........

Now adays I see him in the hall way, and we just pass by. Last time before he said hi, I replied, telling him to f off (now adays, I don't care what kind of weapon a person has. even if someone has a gun, if I can take them, then I will). Lesson learned? Don't mess with the psycho black peoples (not to sound racist, but I say it like that since such situations usually occur with black people. don't go near the white crazies to, cuz they either have it just as bad, or worse. either way, every race has a majority of themselves that is f'ed up).


alrite, well, that is off my chest, lol ^_^

 

Hey, uh, what would be the best way to deal with someone else being bullied?

There is one kid I know, and his entire class seems to have a vendetta against him. I am serious here. During Japanese, there were around three people chucking pencils at him, and more who just looked on and ignored it. After the class, one guy was branding the pencils at him.

I could have put it down to that select group, but later on the bus when some guys were bothering me, one of them said "Lay off, it's [name of other kid] we have to annoy!"

So the existance of the problem has been established. But that's not the worst bit. The bad bit is that this guy has one of those syndromes. (Downs or tourettes or something like that.) and he can be really irritating sometimes, even though he is intelligent.

To be honest, I am at a loss for what to do. If I go to a teacher, he will get in the shit, or if I am found out, I will be. I am concerned, but not enough to risk my own neck.

 

What?! O_o
First, what you would do when the "taller people" that you're talking about aren't with you in a moment? RHETORICAL QUESTION B|
Second, If you bully them, you will worsen the situation
Third, move school is a really stupid thing. All the schools, ALL have their bullies
Fourth, if you do that, the consequences can vary...
Fifth, What. The. Hell. Are. You. Talkin'. About?! This thread is serious, so be serious, we're not in the Spam Zone.

 

I was being bullied numorous times, not any more however. I found a trick:

What not to do:
When being bullied, DON'T ever walk away. Chances are they'll follow you, or you'll being laughed at and being called names behind your back, and next time you see him/her, things will get worse.

Try avoid fighting as much as possible. If it's really neccesary: let the bully throw the first punch. However, if YOU throw the first punch, people will think YOU'RE the bully because they'll saw you hitting the actual bully.

What should you do:
When you're being bullied, stand in front of him. make eye-contact. Don't be afraid to look the bully in the eyes. When he/she starts asking something like: ''Hey, are you BORN that butt-ugly?'' just answer as: ''no.''(don't start a whole story after that answer) and stay locked at his/her eyes. He/she will probably give up soon. This is what I do. Another way to stop the bully is the classic:

TELL. Your parents, your teacher, anyone who you can trust. My opinion: your friends aren't always a good idea, because chances are they will act really strange, dunno why... but anyway, telling it to your teacher or parents should stop it soon.

 

Sometimes that does work, since the bullies will get bored of it sooner or later.

 

Well, since im here..i might as well say something.

Well, these kids at school who i thought i was friends with was in a room, so me and my real friend stayed there and they kept asking werid question about my prefence (they think im gay, when im not) They asked my friend first but he didnt anwser so they went to me. I really quite and shy so i didnt say anything. But afterwords it made me feel really bad.

I gone through bullying in middle school and i thought it go away. So then my friend that was there with me convinced me to talk to the prinicpal. (Since they dont like bullying, im in a small school, only 100 students go there) I told him what happend and then he talked to the kid and his group. But now there upset and now they want to find out who told (they know it's me but i said that the princpal kept asking me what's bothering me and i told him) Now im kinda worried what will happen. Should i wait till it blows over? so they can forget?

 

I don't think something like that will blow over, they're waiting for an answer. Are your friends upset? Or do I not understand the question?

 

These "Friends" (i thought they were, but since then, i had second thoughts) they said afterwords they were playing.But if they were my real friends, why does it make me feel bad? I dont think friends do that just for fun

 

Did you already tell your parents what happened?

 

Yeah, they said to talk to them. Which what the princpal suggested.So i might do that..or i can just wait to see what happens.I feel like i should of stood up for myself when that happened.That's why i feel so bad

 

No, don't wait. You should talk to them, otherwise, things can get out of hand because they can get impatient.

 

Okay, So i'll talk to them tomorrow. Thanks for the advice! I feel wayyyyyy better now! :D

 

Glad I could help you!:bounce: