You know, I don't really buy that your only standards involve me having to look good. It doesn't seem probable. You know me so well and we've been friends for years. Let's just face it: Appearance as a standard is just silly. Could it be that you're just hiding behind your standards so you don't have to face how you feel? It's not like I care. I'd actually prefer it if you reject me. That way we can keep being friends. But the reason why you reject me is hurtful. Reject me because you think I'm likely to cheat. Reject me because I might have a tendency to hurt you when all I mean to do is help. Reject me because I can be a ditz at times, or that I don't support many of your interests. Don't reject me for the glaringly obvious fact that I'm ugly. Being unattractive is one of the few ways I indulge myself. I love not worrying about my appearance. Don't take that away. I don't want to sacrifice my art, or my intelligence, or my gaming just so I can look good. Is what I imagine myself saying in a few days. /melancholyventing
From one bro to another, you're not that bad looking. And if she's been a true friend to you, she won't even care about what you look like. Go get her! Your life is turning into a romantic-comedy slice-of-life anime where I'm yelling at the screen saying "TELL HER YOU LIKE HER YOU DOPE!! GET TOGETHER ALREADY!!"!
I don't think you get it. I NEED to be ugly. It's a flaw that I can't live without. It keeps me humble. I've turned all my other flaws into reasons why I'm awesome.
I don't think there's a single person in the real worldd who's shallow enough to actually say "Because you're not very good-looking" in real life. Unless you're going for Megan Fox, which you should know would be a mistake in the first place... ...which would be pretty ironic seeing as how her baby pictures have been posted for people to see, and let me tell you, Gerber sure as hell would'nt have that face put on air for no commercials.
I understand; I do the same thing. I don't keep myself groomed and I don't care about my outer appearance. I want to be seen for the way I act, not the way I look. And the way you talk about your friend, she obviously doesn't care either.
You've entered the friend zone a loooong time ago buddy, no way you'll be grooming her ponytail anytime soon. Also, a little self maintenance hurts nobody and is good for your own ego. Nice clothes makes you feel better than ugly rags.
Honestly, this implies that someone who is ambitious, intelligent, or likes gaming can't be good looking. I honestly don't think that's right but that being said- I agree that being attractive isn't the most important thing in the world. And you shouldn't change yourself or try harder for someone else if you don't want to. They should like you just the way you are. If not, that's her fault. You can find someone else and remain friendly with her. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder but it is also inner beauty that makes a bigger difference than outer beauty. It's just what people look for in other people I guess. That is a good way of looking at flaws but you don't need to be unattractive to be a humble person. You just need to not think you're the best thing since sliced bread. This + There is a fine line between overindulging in yourself and trying to look and feel your best. I guess you don't have to do it. But I guess where I'm coming from I like to look my best and then I don't care or obsess with myself physically thereafter. Being conceited is just as much of an unattractive trait.
