I don't understand...

Well, this is my third week of school and this situation has been going on constantly..

There are these two guys in my class that seem to always bother me. They throw pencils at me, always tell me to say stuff that I can't pronounce properly because of my retainer, and they also watch everything I do for some reason.
I don't understand this. One time, one of these guys complimented on my good style of clothing, which he seemed to really mean. The next day, he's there throwing pencils and me and poking me with pencils as well.
Are there any percaussions you think I should take? Which involves avoiding to straight away tell the teacher?

I am really getting sick and tired of how they act towards me. It's only me they act that way to as well. Everyone else they get along with...

 

First off, how old are you, and what is your hieght? (this can usually make the difference of what you can and can't do.)

Also, would you consider yourself strong? (this could refer to physical action if you don't want to head to a teacher. I've dealt with worse, but this sounds pretty classic).


Also, what kind of kids are these? What social group would you say?

 

Okay, my height is like... 4'6. My age is a different story. I don't use strength for situations like this. And, these kids seem to have quite a bit of friends, they seem to be nice to others as well.

 

Oh...K.These guys are the socialists.These guys are just having fun but they use you because your less social then them and probably don't socialise with the girls.They do mean the complements.I used to be less social but i've grown up and they stop doing that stuff to me.There were some other idiots though who bumped up the annoyance.If they do,if you become more social then them then just give them the super cold shoulder as i so call it.Where you block them out and ignore literally everything they say or do.Push against them with your shoulder if they pass you.It's harsh but effective and is to be used as a last resort.They may respect you after this because i've done it before and they left me alone and respected me.

 

Interesting way of handling this. I am not sure if pushing them is going to make them respect you. You have really interesting ways of dealing with things daxma, which we both have in common, which I respect in ways. According to what you've said, you seem to actually understand what I am going through. Ignoring them is the best thing I can do for now. I may use the super cold shoulder technique very soon.

 

Believe me.. they don't actually want to hurt your feelings just they want a bit of fun and it's at your expense.It's like their way of making you more social and it's all subconsious.

 

Lol. Just make sure you know just how far these guys are gonna go.


2 years ago I had to deal with some dude who got pissed off cuz I wouldn't do what I told him (I aint exsactly popular either), and from what I have learned now, the dudes mom had cancer (her mom died last year. I feel bad for the family, but for him, I have no remorse), and so every chance he got, he started acten gay and started comen onto me, and so the rest of his group followed (preps basicly. If ya dont know what a prep is, then basicly, those are the school rich kids).

I tried ignoren them, but sadly enough, that didn't help, and I had to resort to punchen the guy in the face (I didn't want to, but it got to a point where he hit a nerve and either way, I doubt I could've conciouslly stopped myself).

After that though, him and his groups of friends got together, and made up a bull story that I made a death threat, and to make things worse, it happend around the west virginia shooting, principle didn't care if I was innocent or not cuz it turns out he made it recorded that I admitted to it all when I didn't admit to a single thing..........well, you get the point.




Point I am tryen to get at though is that you godda handle these things carefully, because normally, it is just some kid who you can ignore, but if they keep on comen at you, then things can get pretty tricky................ besides that though, you should probably go along with daxma's advice. I can't say I would ever take it, but you should.



and daxma, dude, not for nothen, but you got lucky with that one. There are some kids who would go to bigger extreme's then what I said. I'd rather not say exsactly what those are here. I'm not sayen that you are wrong, but I am sayen that not all bullies are as easy goin as the ones that you had.

 

Off the topic:

Personally i think that you couldn't have taken that situation any better.So what if he made a story about you what else could he do?Take away your dignity...no because you stole his first.Beat you up...no because you showed him he can't win.Use his leverage...no because he's been bullying you forever.Get his parents after you...no because he didn't want to cause anymore pain or heartache.You had him in a seriously good position and you handled it well in my opinion.

Believe me Deathsight this guy was serious.He'd annoyed me whenever he saw me and he want to serious extremes like trying to put me in fights but then i just pretended he didn't even exist and now he's actually socaible.

 

Whatever you do do not ignore them. Do not threaten them either both ways they'll laugh and continue. Demonstrate that you can stop them without physically harming them. Like just put pictures in their minds to scare them off or put pictures in their minds that your just like them.

 

I understand what you are saying but, how do I put pictures into their minds?(I know what you mean, I am not being stupid :P)

 

Lol. Good to hear that from someone actually. Total sucky part of it though is that the dudes mom died like a month after. I mean, the irony was sweet, but still though, I feel bad for the woman, since she died knowen that her son had done all that. Really is a horrible way to die, know what i'm sayen?

Dude, that isn't exsactly good advice. If he doesn't try and ignore them, then things can easily get worse

 

Did you tell the teachers about the bullying?
Well atleast the woman died knowing the truth about her son and making a possible change in him from a bully then her dieing thinking of a gracefully ignorant view of her son while he continues to bully.I think she would've wanted to know the truth before dieing.

 

I understand you. And to put the pictures into their heads talk with them email them write notes to them during class. just anyway possible to make thwm think your one of them waiting to happen.

 

No. He is still the same as usual. He just can't come near me or socialize with me in school or else it goes on his permanent record ^_^

sadly enough though, I am currenty in an english honors class, and (my old school got pretty pissed off cuz since they tried to just get me expelled without even trying to see whether or not I was innocent, and ****, I've got the proof that they tried cuz I could've sued, I basicly got a few employees fired >: ) ) I am now some how in a class with every kid except for the one who lead the whole thing, as well as many other prep kids. In other words, I am in a class where all but only a few people I have had issues with, lmao. It ranges from 15-20 people ^_^

As for how she died though, if she had died knowen about someone else, perhaps a family member who she didn't know all that well, then I am sure that it is alrite. But say you had a family member that you really loved, and you found out that they were doing what that kid did to me? (for all I know though, she could've been a *****. Though I do know that the parents ended up sending me an apology)


Lol. As for the teachers, no. I didn't want my parents involved, just like Abridgd doesnt want to do I am assuming. It would not have done anything either, because they never actually said an insult to me. They would smile, act as if they were my friends or some **** like that (though I knew it was all bull), and tried to make me look gay by comen onto me. But, they never actually said a single insult to me, and their parents were friends with the principle and school board, so it was a tough situation


Abridgd though, if things ever get serious for you, then go to the teachers for help or somethen. After all, if stuff goes on their permanent record, then face facts, ur basicly ruining what could've been a brighter future for the kids that are bothering you, know what I'm sayen?

And if you want to follow roberts advise, then that is alrite, but to me, it seems a bit cowardly. Not for nothen, but for me, pride is a big issue, and I hate it when someone tries to blend in (one of the main reasons why they came after me. I have a lot of friends, but I don't try to fit in with any crowds, and I just do my own thing)

 

Well, I could always resort to that as a "backup plan", type of thing.But, I don't think the e-mail would work.

 

Ask for a transfer to another school or go straight to the board/department of education.This a bit unfair that they're going after you for punching a bully in the face.Go to the board/department.Their parents aren't unreasonable.Their parents won't protect them if they hear what they're doing to you and board/department members can't take favouritism with family friends or anything otherwise they lose their jobs.You could sue most of the teachers and students for emotional stress.

 

Why are you guys off topic now?

 

sorry i just drifted that way because deathsight is a harder situation.I've given you all thehelp i can so if i can help another in the process then i will.

 

Lol. Problem is that there are no other english honors classes that I can move into now.
Besides, I am moven to new jersy in like a month anyways, so not a problem ^_^


Lol. sorry about that abridgd. I tend to rant a lot. We'll stop now ^_^

But basicly abridgd, looks like you have gotten a lot of advice. Still think ya need some more help or somethen? Any questions?

 

I'm glad your moving to jersey.Make new friends,new start etc.
Sorry for going off the topic but i managed to help two people today so thats always a plus for my selfsteem and you guys'.