On the trust issue: No matter how much you trust a person, no matter how much you know you will stay together, you still have no binding reason that you HAVE to stay together. As such, you begin to fear your partner will leave you, becoming jealous easily, and angry just as such. This is something not only exhibited by myself, but by many of the people I know who have had sex. Am I saying this always happens? No, but it is the common thing to happen, and as Roxas pointed out earlier, most relationships outside of marriage that have sex end about 3 weeks after having sex. I do so happen to feel comfortable enough, because as I said, I do not regret my actions. The problems that arose are what I stated above. I began to become jealous (I am already a very defensive person, I have been abused and had my trust of people broken in the past. I have lost people close to me who I did not expect to lose, my parents divorced TWICE and many other people (including my first gf) lied to me, so I have trust issues) What having sex did, was interfere with us growing together as a couple. It didn't help that her parents found out, because her mom is a soulless ***** and read her diary. The stress that this put on our relationship didn't help us, and only made us feel that things were getting worse. In concerns to moderation, we only had sex about 5 times over a 3-4 month period, and then about 3 more times over another 3-4 month period. Moderation was not our problem, rushing things was. For me, I believe that if you love someone, then I truthfully, see no problem with it, but what Ihave been trying to state is why you shouldn't. Me and my gf agreed to stop because it is what was best for our realtionship. As a non-relligious, you said you never plan on getting married. I fiond this sad, but it is your own opinion. To me, marriage is the highest thing a couple can do to express their love for one another. Sex is the thing that ties that together. I like the reasons you listed this time, but not your first. Finding if you are "sexually compatible" is no excuse to have sex. If you love one another you will be. I hope this helped some, and I will be happy to fill you in if I did not explain something well enough.
(OOC: Who cares, It's still more literative than half of the n00bs here XD Also, twas not my fault, my elbow ended up there! *shoves back* This corner gonna grow really small really quick XD)
(OOC: Warm? *sits in corner with Rena* And no this is not wrong, we is siblings XP)
(OOC: Aww...sis...*hugs* feel better, we still loves ya XD we was just having some fun!)
(OOC XP you gets lots of tongues stuck out at you. Me and Rufus called it though, yous rubbed it in XD You are becoming predicatable Rena XD)
(OOC: That makes 2 of us DX At least it wasn't a n00b who got is XD W00t to Rena!!!)
*taps Roxas on the head* Call me crazy, but I think I'm starting to like ya kid. We may not see eye to eye on everything, but at least your fun to have an argument with. As for the Drugs and alcohol thing = BAD I'm sorry, but I don't want to screw myself up more than is necessary. And Lithium, I would consider trying to quit. I have lost to many people in my family to lung Cancer and Emphezema from cigarette smoking to not try. Also, Ciggarettes are worse for you than pot >< Tis a proven statistic. There have been no deaths related to pot use, only what people have done because of it. Smoking on the other hand will kill you.
*Calms down* Firstly, I must congragulate you, you are smarter than I initially gave you credit for, as what you said lead me to believe differntly, so le me now address some of the things you said. No not under the legal age, but as someone to young to fully comprehend the extensiveness of sex. You are mature for your age, and thusly I apologize for mocking you. Most kids your age have an ideollagy of sex that is completely false. I will try not to hold a biase anymore, but the strong majority of kids your age truly do not understand what they are getting themselves into. This is the comment that initially set me off, and the reason I brought love into the issue. Love should be the only factor. If you do not love someone, you should not have sex with them. this thread wasn't asking the question are people free to do it, it is asking should they. I do not believe they should. It is their right if they choose to do it, but I do not believe it is ever a smart choice to have sex without love as the sole factor motivating it. So don't ****ing drink. If you know it will lead to a bad choice, then why do it? Again, this is about what should happen, not what does, so don't say I'm being stupid for saying this. I am 18, and I have NEVER drank, I have NEVER done drugs, and I do this because I don't want to do something that will affect the rest of my life while under the influence of something. If anything happens, it willbe my choice and my choice alone. My arguement was never based around telling people that they can't, but that they shouldn't. I can't stop you from going out and having sex with someone you don't love (and I'm not talking about you particularily, I'm using it as a broad term), but I can say why you shouldn't. That is all the argument I have for you Roxas. Again, sorry for discounting your opinion, and please understand where I am coming from as well. While I agree with you that sexual frustrations are something that can hinder a marriage, a marriage should not be based off of sex. Love goes beyond sex. PLus there are ways to discover whether or not you are compatible with a person in a sexual way without having sex. Talk to them about what they envsion sex to be like, and what they think you will be like.
The only thing I regret? Saving after the thousand heartless. I made a different save file after defeating each org member, so I can go back and fight whichever one I want (once my ps2 gets fixed DX) Maybe I also regret not starting on proud mode, because completing Jiminys journal was a ***** and a half. Though it did drag out many more hours in the game.
O_O yous needs to come back so I can gets to knows ya, cause you've been gone for so lon DX
*checks in on thread* Well, well, well. Go Rena, I find it great you can defend your case well. Before I begin, I am 18 as well. Roxas, as a 14 year old, I must say that I ordinarily would completely discount your opinion on this matter almost immediatly, but I will take it into account for the sake of argument. I am christian, I do not classify myself as anything but. If anything I am non-denominational. I do not believe that any one religion is the ultimate truth. I believe that all religions that believe in a monotheistic being are just different ways to the same God. That is just me however. For me, I will give my opinion based on actual experience. I have seen lives destroyed, and people torn apart and completely changed because of choosing sex before marriage. It destroys a relationship to have such a powerful bondng experience without any form of real commitment and tears that relationship apart. It ruins any form of love that could have been had by those two, because they begin to mistrust one another. Second, to say something so stupid as love should not be a factor in choosing when to have sex shows me how ignorant you are Roxas. Sex is ABOUT love, so how could love not be a factor? people have twisted the very definition of sex to satisfy their own sick ends, and our world grows ever more perverted because of it. You want to know the clincher on all of this? I am not a virgin. I have had sex, but it was starting to ruin mine and my girlfriends relationship, and we have chosen to stop. I have been with her for nearly 2 years now, and I do not regret my actions. I do however know how badly things could have turned out, as they were drifitng there. To be so ignorant of something so sacred makes me very angry, and I am right now controlling myself. I don't know if I should write more, because I am filling a very strong urge to be mean, and that is not what this thread is about. I have labeled my opinions, laid out a secret of mine, and given my point. It is now your choice whether to listen to it or not.
O_O Man I'm a gullible idjit XP
Darkwatch is a girl @_@ *apologizes* I thought you were a guy ^^;; I really need to stop assuming things XD I kep telling myself I won't, but I keep doing it... *apologizes again*
Lol, nice XD Even still, 9 cats in one house @_@ I love animals, but I can't imagine nine little ones running around, no matter how cute they were XD I only have one cat and one dog, both of which are getting on in years. They both are having problems though...But, I'll take care of them as long as they are ment for this world ^_^
O____O DUUUUUUUUUUUUUDE!!! I never thought I would meet anyone who had more than Rufus XD. How do you take care of all nine of them? @_@
DarkAndroid, I don't know if you were planning on this or not, but I think it would be really cool if you made reference to Luffy and the gang. As the man with the biggest bounty on his head in al of East Blue, I'm sure we would here something about him. Heck, maybe we could even run into them @_@
What this is is what the title says. Here is where I will keep a list of all of my stories that I post here on these forums. Managing all of them and trying to get everyone to the other's is becoming to ardous a task without having a centralized location. From now on, on the bottom of each story will be a link back to this page, and from here, you will find a link to each and every story I post. Hopefully this will cut down on confusion, and make it easier for you to find my stories. I will put them in Chronological order in the order I WROTE them, not the order I posted them. This will allow you to follow a timeline and see how my writing style has evolved. I hope to hear comments from you all, from good to bad, so long as its constructive, I really don't mind XD Twilightsown's Fanfictions: -Stories: --Kingdom Hearts ---Destiny ---Fallng Rain ---The Fading Flower ---Summer Vacation ---Spirit of the Fallen --Final Fantasy ---When the Light Fades -Poems: --Kingdom Hearts ---I've Found You Once Again ---Child of Forgotten Memories Divine of Grace's Fanfictions (My Girlfriend's): -Just One Chance -Where'd You Go? (For a complete list of ALL of my fanfictions, my fanfiction.net account is here)
(OOC: Unfortunately, it's prob gonna be some random n00b >< Me and Rufus have agreed not to post except at night, so we can do what we want to do.)
Yes This is going to be awesome XD Name: Andrinor Gender:Male Appearance: Red cloak, Blue Shirt, blue pants. Short brown hair, Green eyes. Thin, but bult, tall. Devil Fruit: (optional): As much as I'd like to, I'll be the normal marksman XP Weapon: (optional): Modified Rifle, dual pistols Special ablilties: (Devil friut powers, attacks, something that makes your characters special, e.g. sword abilites etc) Instant reload. Has developed a technique for reloading in the blink of the eye. Runs through ammunition quickly, but can fire off rounds far faster than a normal marksman. Also, is incredibly accurate at both long and short range, thusly why he carrys both a rifle and two pistols. Position: (can't be captain): Gunner/Marksman Background: Andrinor was trianed his whole way as a gunner, from an early age. After defeating his mentor in a dual, Andrinor has decided to travel the seas, looking for an opponent worthy of himself. After fighting Hirac, and being defeated, He decides to join him, in the hopes of one day surpassing his captain in skill. Reasons for Joining the Crew: To become the greatest warrior in the world his own way. After being defeated by Hirac, he accepts him as his captain, and decides to travel the seas with him. Was that ok? Hope so, I love the One Piece world. Hope to become one of your Nakama!
"Well, you two coming or not?" Sora said, raising one eyebrow as he stared at the other two. "This mystery isn't going to solve itself you know."
