Well, yeah, it can be annoying that some things if you do them people call you gay outright. I have been asked if I was gay simpy because I shave and take care of myself and exercise etc. That is pretty annoying to put up with. I'm not afraid of dirt or anything, but at the same time, at some functions it's just not appropriate to look like a freaking slob. How this got to be linked to a man being gay, I have no idea considering all in the past nobles and wealthy people looked clean and crisp. Now that common people can do so, why shouldn't we when we aren't out in the woods or something? I wouldn't call wearing an ascot gay...but yeah, some people do. I'd just say it's out of fashion. I think it's funny how on Venture Bros, Hank wears one because it's out of style but his dad is so out of focus. The word gay too, used to mean 'happy'. It's changed but I guess that's just the way it goes. Of course now I have to explain to my niece and nephew that in some Disney movies etc, they aren't talking about homosexuality when they are singing old songs. That can be an interesting thing to talk about. Trust me. There are some things that people need to understand are not just done by 'gay' or 'straight' people. The stereotypes are really annoying and it is something that needs to be stopped, but that's something for people to do by just being themselves and if asked if they are gay, the answer is a yes or no. If enough people are honest about it, obviously trimming eyebrows, cutting nails properly, shaving and wearing proper antipersperant etc won't just get a stupid label to a person with a gender preference. I find the same thing though applies to females too because I have good friends who are tomboys but get called lesbians and butch etc, when they are not. I actually think girls that are more rough and tumble are cute. But they also have to make it clear that a trait for behavior isn't more 'gay' or 'straight' so people get it through their heads. In the end, I've just gotten used to the idea that I don't care what anyone thinks about what I do because they will have their own opinions. A lot of friends I hang with try to get girlfriends (believe it or not) so that they can do the more 'girly' stuff because they can use a girl as a reason to do it. It's utterly just stupid but they figure they can't just be metro-sexual (I hate this term but have to use it) because they want to be and it doesn't mean they are gay. All I can say is that we just need to be ourselves and sooner or later this gay/straight/bi crap won't be so much an issue and really, I don't see, unless someone is deliberately trying to fit into the stereotypical gay, how others can tell if someone is gay or not. I honestly had no clue some of my friends were gay till they told me because they don't wear certain clothes types etc or talk with that accent.
Oh man...Soku, you will be missed. This just comes as a total shock and thank you, Darkwatch, for posting this so that we could know. My heart goes out to his sister and family and all of us that knew him. Soku was awesome and if you never did get to meet him, it is a sad shame. I won't forget you, Soku. RIP. I wish I had known you more.
Well, it's wrong to do that but it's their choice. We can't tell people who they should talk to. AAAAND... (to be continued with suspense) ....uh...yeah...duh... (buries face in pillow). So uh, he'd act exactly as he does now...gotcha.
Well, anyone that wanted to do it had to say so for the poll. If it actually starts up again as it used to be done all the time, then people will get a chance for sure. It's not about being popular. The message of it was just a chance to get to know people better and have some fun doing so. Technically if it went as it used to and didn't slow down and stop as it has over the last few months, well, you'd see the time go by quickly and all. It really isn't that bad. Also, we all like different people here so it's not just a popularity thing. It may seem like it though. I'd like to see anyone do it again because we used to have a lot of fun with it and it didn't matter if I knew the person or not. It let me get to know them better. Also, VGN, if you put your name in next time, I'm sure people would vote for you and sooner or later you'd get it. Hang in there and don't get negative on it.
It's nice when friends do that. Happy B-day! *pinch* That's to grow an inch.
No, I didn't. The point is in what you stated so you aren't getting the problem here. You stated you -could- find a person of the same gender if you had no luck with women. This would make someone potentially bisexual. Just because you don't act on it doesn't mean that you could not find the person attractive to be sexually aroused. You think it's wrong so you don't act on it. I know I am straight because I really have -no- attraction to another man. It just doesn't exist. I don't think of it as wrong or right. It's just the way I am. If someone is gay and is not attracted to another person of the same sex and it is in fact a turn off to be with someone of the opposite sex, well, that sexual attraction isn't going to be needing a justification of right or wrong. It's the way it is. Why is it wrong? How is it a choice if they have no desire or sexual arousal to the opposite sex?
So, you could find a person of the same gender attractive just like that? I guess that would make you potentially bi then. I know I can't and have thought about it. It just doesn't happen for me at all. I can say a guy looks 'good' but in no way do I feel drawn to really want to be with any man. This is why I don't think it's as simple as people try to say it is and if they can switch from male to female that easy, then their attractions would be bisexual in nature. Not all people are bi and just as I have no attraction to a person of the same sex, if someone is only attracted to someone of the same sex only, I think they aren't going to be happy with someone of the opposite sex, regardless of how they try to force themselves.
Hmm...now I feel bad. I didn't think of it that way really because the questions thing was going on for some time and those who get on it can't go again, so technically anyone could have a turn. It always has just been a fun thing to me.
As you get older, birthdays won't mean so much anymore if people forget them. At least he knew it was sometime soon. I've had birthdays where no one remembered or did a thing and when someone does remember I'm actually surprised anymore since I'm 25.
This is the problem with stereotypes...I'm not one of those. I'd be a geek, jock, skaterboi and goth and maybe more of the things on there as well as average Joe. I have no idea how people just can claim to be one thing as I think people are a lot more complex than that.
Out of curiosity, can you two change being straight and what you are attracted to?
You mean the one where he was a gay guy that died of AIDS? It was called 'Philadelphia' I believe. I haven't seen that in years. It was a good movie though. And...what's wrong with medical commercials!!! Well, no I didn't. I just research a ton of things and it's all crammed into my brain.
Hmm, I'd have to say Xigbar the most because he knows when to be serious and when to have fun, though I don't have a surfer voice. Though I can relate also with Zexion too as he's a scholar. Of course, Xigbar was allegedly a scientist too if he was an apprentice to Ansem the Wise, so it works.
Have you read some of the questions people ask? Most of the time they are joke questions though some are serious. Really, it's just meant to have fun and get to know someone better. Of course I wouldn't be a stick in the mud and it was sarcasm. oOOo was the hint!
You are awesome Shiki aka SillyPuddy! And Tularim, what's wrong with premies? We don't have extra power or something. We are members like you who have just posted more and got to know people. It's not like we are so much different. Someday you will also have a pink name and then what are you going to do? I still think you are cool despite this, darn it.
They would be soOoo serious too. I'm cuckoo for cocohints!!! P.S. I can't believe people actually voted for me. *faints*
Actually AIDS is spread by people who have contracted the disease and who are mostly doing unprotected sex or by needles for drug sharers. It's not normally passed any other way and gays and straight people have it. The people that spread it most are those who are very promiscuous which can be very sexually active males or females with any sexual 'preference'. So, don't just think of it as a gay thing. The reason people think of it as gays mostly comes from the fact that a guy who came back from Africa in the 70s with the disease went and had sex in a theater with other gay men who were closet gays (because that is what you were back then) and were also very promiscuous. They were sleeping with their wives and also other women, who were sleeping with others etc. However, AIDS has become an epidemic so that someone with the disease can pass it on and because the person may not realize he/she has AIDS for years, it can spread to many people. It's not just a gay disease and it spread in America possibly by the situation I said but it is in every country by whatever means and sadly the only way to defend against it is to have protected sex or avoid sex unless you and the person you are with gets tested. Really, anymore I think the second option is the smartest. If you get with a partner and want to have sex, probably the smartest thing to do is go to a doctor and get blood tested and your partner too. It is now something that people have to do now in some places before they get married and it seems like the best idea. That way both partners know they are safe.
That's what I thought. You are kind of homophobic and that was rather clear in what you said. There's nothing wrong with having a fear as long as you see it and don't let it get the best of you. Just remember that because someone has an attraction to the same gender doesn't mean you yourself are going to have to deal with it. I will say it's a bit disconcerting to be hit on by a gay guy, but at the same time when it had happened to me I just said I don't go that way and the three people who did it left me alone about it and also two became good friends. They did help me learn to accept it better as did some girls who are lesbians or bi. It took time because yes, as a straight person, I don't have a thing for another man and well, it was kind of disgusting to me. I think that's the point though in it all. It is weird to think of why someone would be attracted to something you personally aren't. But after thinking on it I also thought along the lines of some guys like blonds better than brunettes, some people are attracted to ethnic sorts of things like hair, eyes, skin color etc. I remember thinking this one girl who is black was hot and a few of my friends were like 'wtf' about it, while some of my friends like 'big girls with huge gazongas' and I find if someone is too overweight, it kind of repulses me. So, taking it that we all have our preferences of things we are attracted to and that's just the way it is, I did come out understanding gay people better and realize we aren't so different. It did help me get over homophobia and learn that they aren't a problem. It's how we are raised that may be the problem, which is because we listen to what others say and don't really think on it ourselves. So, I hold nothing against you for your opinion but just hope that this helped you at all. I don't think people should be 'slammed' for homophobia. It exists for a reason. Any fear should be addressed and not slammed on as necessarily stupid because it exists for some reason, even if unfounded once the facts are on the table. There are animals that are also gay and it just seems a natural thing, even though reproductively speaking, it isn't going to get people far. We, as humans, are one of the few animals that actually have sex for fun and it is therapeutic even. There are animals in the wild that are gay and will raise kids etc no problems. I don't think someone can 'teach' someone else to be gay so I really don't see that as an issue either because sexual attraction is something people feel drawn to, and that really isn't able to be taught. I hope this helps you out. As I said, I don't consider you stupid. Some people may get mad at your first post and see it as an attack, but at the same time, this all comes down to a point of view. If they see it for what it was, I'm sure that others would not be anti-BaseSebastion either. It's cool, man. Thanks for talking it out because it does take a big person to do that and not just get frustrated and clam up.
"Side effects would be none. I can fix his mind as though it did not happen. I am a very well educated sorcerer and would not state something I could do were it harmful to the person. As for how his demeanor will be afterwards, I would imagine he may need to be held in check but I can also deal with that if he does not listen to your advice." He understood the Judge's concern and admired the fact he actually inquired about it. The Pokemon may need a firm hand to whip him back to focus on what was needed but he believed the Judge could do so and at this time he just did not think Mewtwo's invasion of Pika's mind was warranted and it should not go unpunished.
In a way I think it would be good if Clinton and Obama went on the same ticket...but in another way I think she'd serve better as another position in his staff as one of the major Secretaries. Vice President does so much only and she'd actually be able to influence more on a better staff position and also it would be realized if he did tell her that and bring the party together more. Either way, whether VP or as some other more useful staff member, I do think she should be there for it. However, there's been no announcement yet that he's won so I am waiting for it. He's just darn close to clinching it and we find out tonight or tomorrow how he did. If he wins though I think it would be smart to offer Hillary some position in his staff whether VP or something where she can be more useful.
