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Let me just say that it'll likely be fairly obvious who I'm referring to in this thread, but I am not calling them out, I am just at the point where I need help.

Anyway, at this point, I just feel like I'm the only one messing up, just as the thread title states. I don't want to get too ahead of myself, but what needs to be known is that about a week ago, my girlfriend and I decided to take a break. I was in a pretty crap mood, so I ended up losing it and saying things I shouldn't have, but we got over it and are talking again.

Or so it seems.

Every time I go to talk to her, she seems okay with talking to me. I usually have to start the conversations because she doesn't, but I don't hold that against her, even if I feel she just doesn't want anything to do with me anymore at all. We talk for a bit, then she just closes off and acts like "okay Hector go away I'm busy", and is just too nice to say so. Normally, i'd lose my temper pretty fast, but two things happened that basically ensured I wouldn't do so anymore:

A) I played The World Ends With You and realized a lot of my internal and external conflicts are just due to past experiences that I have to learn to let go of.
B) I am sick of getting upset and us landing in square 1 again. I'd get mad, we'd make up, and then she'd just do it again. Like I said, not going through it again if it won't be fixed.

So anyway, I now just say I'll leave her alone and that she can speak to me later if she wants to, well knowing she won't because she'll occupy herself with her friends (whom she's been siding with lately, so I kinda haven't been able to count on her support because of that, and it kinda hurts). It's basically just my way of telling her I'll be out of her hair if she wants me to be.

Now onto the main subject. Am I really doing everything wrong? Am I not caring for her enough? Am I too focused on my stuff? I'm to the point of tears and hating myself because I just don't know what I did or what I can do to repair things. I don't mean to incessantly whine, but I'm just feeling like everyone is against me for things I accidentally did. I used to be on such good terms with everyone, and now we have my girlfriend's friends who don't like me, half the people I see on here just want me to go away, and even my friends, who I knew before she did, are becoming distant from me, because they're friends with her too. Heck, it seems I just can't grasp what I learned these past few weeks.

I figured that having my own values and letting everyone keep theirs would work. That i should only love and trust those who do the same with me, protect them because they care, and just not give two craps about the people who don't like me.

But in all honesty, it's easier said then done.

She's done so much for me, she's helped me through a lot, and I wish I could say I've done the same for her... but in all honesty, her attitude states otherwise, and it makes me feel worthless. Like I kinda deserve to have her leave me, which is another thing that I keep getting from her attitude. I just feel like one day she's gonna message me and say it isn't working out, because I'm just not doing enough. I'm stuck in a hole, where I just can't get out and fix anything.

I'm just scared. No one understands me as well as she does. I can't form connections with people at my school, and I don't trust anyone else enough. Even now, she's more mature than me. She acts like an adult, and I still have the mentality of a child. I know it sounds like incessant 'Oh, I love her and need her, wha wha wha', but it's not that. I seriously feel like I'm doing something wrong and have it coming if she does decide to leave me behind. So... am I really messing up, or is this just how life goes?