No, if anything I think it should be utterly removed from politics save to say that people can be of any religion or lack there of in a country, and so long as it is not harming anyone else, it is fine to do. Freedom of religion and/or lack of religion is important to me. However, the more certain religious groups try to skew governments to doing things to single out that religion and make it more important than others, it becomes aggravating. It is quite disappointing to me to see that people actually will vote for someone due to their religion and churches rally to support a candidate based on their religion and they feel the person will back their moral grounds. I think it's also quite annoying when the news has to also bring in religion as in 'who are the Jews, Evangelicals, Catholics etc going to vote for?', which just shows people in their respective religious centers are trying to slant and control their members' votes. People should be able to vote for who they want based on more things than just religious preference, and even if someone does choose to vote for a candidate because the person is of the same religion, the religious establishments should have nothing to do with it. Also, I don't want religion messing with school anymore than they do. There is no reason for kids to graduate from a public high school still thinking that dinosaurs and cavemen walked around at the same time and the earth is 6 to 10k years old. There's also no reason why Christians can demand in public schools, which are government funded, that we should -ever- have a 10 Commandments posted in school, but not a Buddhist 8 Fold Path, etc. Or why in High School, kids cannot have an option for a World Religious Class that explores all major religions while teaching of Creationism etc, but these same people will demand kids to walk out of a Biology or Earth Science class because it is against their religion, or they scream they want Creationism taught, which has no place in a science class. Lastly, I think that it's fine if people were all of -one- religion, but everyone is not. We have Wiccan, Buddhism, Hinduism, Evangelical Protestant, Catholic, Methodist, Satanism, Muslim, Agnostic, Deism, (T)Daoism, Atheism, Scientology, Christian (non-denominational), etc. There are a ton of things people believe in or don't. It seems very harsh to have one dominating religion in government and it pushes us to go back to the days when religion and leadership were hand in hand and people were punished in various ways for not believing in the dominant status quo. It evolves into hatred and non-acceptance, no matter what people try to spout off. Sooner or later some people will be ostracized even more than they already are. In the U.S. some people insist that 'God in Government' has always existed and it is far more important than people's rights to have free religious expression. People have died, committed suicide, serial killers have used religion to propel their agendas, hate groups use and believe in religion and we even have Christian terrorists, whether people like to just say only Muslims can do that, in our own country. We have to listen every year at Christmas time to put the 'Christ' back in Christmas and how dare you call a Christmas Tree a Yule Tree... Political people and the news constantly bring up these issues trying to skew people and also give out misinformation. I do not want to see another Dark Ages or Nazi deal happen where leading people who are of a dominating religion assume their beliefs are superior and so others will be wiped out. The Founding Fathers for the country I am from did not intend for one religion to be dominant even though some were Christian while others were Deist, Agnostic or even early Atheists. Of course, they did not have Hinduists, Muslims or Buddhists etc amongst their members, but the point was all the same. They found ways of getting along despite their views of religion being different. I think it's rather critical to remember that and keep religious influence out of politics.
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Happy B-Day Divine one! Eat lots of cake. ^_^
I c U. Sup?
They sounded really good. Wonder if it was live or fake heh. So used to lip synching anymore.
Hey! So yeah, what'd you need?
If you want name change requests, you can ask in the forum assistance area, so you know for future ref. Nice profile btw.
And you didn't have a get out of jail free card? For shame. :(
Babies know how to bribe. Totally.
Happy belated b-day, saki! Another year goes by.
The teacher was wrong to do that to you in the first place and it made the situation nasty, so I would definitely not confront the other student at all. If it was me, because I hate bad teachers, I would actually consider going to the principal or counselor to report him and how he had you and your friend versus the entire class practically and he would not let you both even speak to defend your point. The irony it is a 'sociology' class and he fails at it, is amusing. He let a situation turn into one of little more than verbal bullying because you disagreed with his point. Of course, you can always see if blowing it off works, and it has its chances. If you feel you can go ahead and talk to the teacher alone, I'd do it at a time before or after class, or say at the end of the school day or early morning. If you feel though that this teacher is just having it out for you, I'd go to speak to the school counselor or principal, and bring it up to your parents. Walking out of a class can get you in trouble instead of him. You handled the situation itself very well by leaving, but you don't want to escalate the situation in class anymore so the teacher seems to be the person to get through one way or another. The students will cut their crap out in time, but if the teacher is a jackass, you're stuck with him the rest of the year. I wish you luck and hope things resolve well for you, whether you end up not doing anything or you do something.
Sometimes divorce is easier on families despite what some kids may think. It lets the parents get in better frames of mind so they don't drive each other crazy and then take it out on the kids etc. People change as years pass and things happen where two people cannot be together and that's just the way it goes. If they are screaming all the time and fighting, yeah, divorce may be the better option. You may miss one parent part of the time, but at least when you see either, they will be more sane and you won't have to hear so much screaming. I can see why their state is driving you nutty. They may be together because of financial reasons, just as much as the fact they want to be there for you. It can be pretty hard with the way the economy sucks ass and has for the past few years, to have a parent leave and work out all the judge stuff etc. Also, they may still love each other but just need to go do some things together and spend time doing something fun rather than griping about everything else they do wrong. If I were you and she tries to drag you into things, I'd just say flat out at this point that you are frustrated with them both and they could try harder to be more considerate of one another and you want no part in it. You love them both and hope they can sort their problems out maturely and you are there for them both, but this problem is something they have to deal with on their own and whatever they decide, you're not going to stop associating with either of them. This will let them know that really the problem is straight up between them and you just want them to stop fighting so much and fix the issue. I wish you luck and hope things get better for you.
Big and bad. How are you doing?
My mom hates my guts and is afraid of me because she can't do crap to me though she used to abuse me a lot growing up, and at 13, I simply had enough and she realized she could no longer hurt me, but to say stupid things because I would not just let her hit me anymore physically. I came to realize as I grew older what some of the issues were. Here's what I think with your position. She's trying to push you to do well. Maybe she's really pushing you too hard such as saying the 'valedictorian' thing. That's harsh and the reality is that unless you really care about being seen as #1, it isn't going to be as important to you as obviously it is to her. She may have anxiety and depression, it sounds like, and she wants you to succeed whereas she did not succeed so well in life. I can say in your circumstance, just do your best so you can get on to college and live your life. She's going to just say those hurtful things and if you keep letting them get to you and don't realize the problem is she's got issues, it will continue to plague you. We're all human and prone to mistakes and the only thing you can do here is suggest counseling of some sort as others said, and/or just learn to accept that your mom is a very pushy person who will say hurtful things to make you push yourself. Get the meaning behind what she is doing. It sucks and later on, she's going to not like what you have to say when you are an adult, about how that treatment did little for you. As for her taking you to a football game... she's probably trying to get you over attaching an event to an ex-boyfriend. You don't want to do that to yourself really. Just because he was a ******, it does not mean that fun things you can do should be taken away because they remind you of a person who wronged you. If we all do that, we give up on great songs, toys, going places etc... all because of someone else who we attach that event to. It's not worth it and I'd suggest trying to find joy in the event again by being who you are with and doing fun things. She's trying to help you there because life is really too short to get hung up over some ex so you limit yourself. In the end, if she's saying things to put you down like the 'having sex with every guy you meet' stuff, as I said, she doesn't want you to fail at life and feels if you just applied more commonsense over emotional reactions, you'd do better. High School is not worse for you than it was for her. Teenagers love to think parents have no clue but when you get out and become an adult, you look back yourself and realize part of the biggest problems with high school were the demands on you to be popular, to fit in, to socialize successfully, and learning at times took a second seat to these things. Being a teenager who is hormonal and all, High School seems worse than it really is to -everyone- nearly. I look back and still say High School sucked, and parents aren't as 'out of the loop' about it as you might imagine. Some of the things my dad said held quite true when I looked back and stopped saying 'parents don't get it!' Barely anyone can forget all the crap that goes on. There are some good things too in HS, but don't make like no one gets how hard it is 'today' because really, the same problems have existed for some time and other problems have replaced others that existed back when. I wish you luck and hope that you can sort things out with your mother but it may take time because she has her own issues of pushing you and disapproving of things you do. She's trying to save you a world of heart ache but because she has her own problems, she's going about it the wrong way. Try to remember that in the end, she -is- trying to help though she is failing miserably right now to you. My suggestion.. is to try to take control of your life the best you can, study, participate in things and prepare yourself for your life in the future, and build a defensive wall against the things she says that are stabbing. The ex-bf is a ****** so try to forget about him because relationships come and go and recalling the good times is cool, but letting him have any control over what you do because you are hung up.. it's not good for you. He's probably well over you as teenage relationships tend to be 'dramatic' but short-lived often, especially when sex gets involved in the equation. The other thing I suggest is like others have.. to try some counseling with her if possible or even just try to talk to her and do things with her like go to the store and such so maybe she will tone down and believe in you more. If it doesn't work, you may just have to grit your teeth and bear it as the rest of us with mothers that are not so helpful have had to do. It can make you stronger in the end to learn how to defend against the awful things she says. Think about it... if someone else says some of the things she does or even close to insults you that way, you'll have a great wall of strength to just brush them off. My mom made me turn into one of the most sarcastic people around that can take about any comments and shrug or tease someone back so they get the clue they are being asses and it's not working on me. xD Forgot about the math.. there are some books that you could buy at book stores which offer help to understanding math a bit easier. One series that helped me some for college to remember math from HS again, was Master Math by Debra Anne Ross. There are a series of books that can help you out with some new approaches to it. Maybe she will help buy those for you or something akin. They are at Borders or any major bookstore I believe.
It depends. When you set up your 'study area' to do homework and such, you want an area that is free of a lot of distraction noises. Some soft music can help drown out sounds elsewhere and help you to relax if you are tense but if you have ADD, it can also sometimes be annoying. A fan can also work to drown out sounds around you, just as well in most cases and can be less distracting if someone is the sort to easily focus on something else instead of what they are doing. It just comes down to your preference really and the type of person you are.
I'm taking it my family would be held by some idiot psychopath killer for such a choice to be made (because if they were there, that would be weird) and that I could have no time to go home and mount up the assault gear to kick his/their scrawny ass(es). So, I'd say I'd not toss the baby because I will not compromise life that way, but the people responsible would definitely pay if I could not somehow save my family. I'd be going all Rorschach on who was responsible and I would find them. I've got a nasty vigilante streak at times and if I had to make the choice, someone else is getting messed up because of it.
Doing fine. How are you?
I am not seeing how a woman's right in the end should not be the deciding factor. There is a small portion of men that may actually want said kid and will raise it. There are more men out there who shun responsibility and the only way they can be held responsible for the child in any way, shape or form, is to make them pay some child support, which can be a task in itself as some men are unemployed, will actually quit work to avoid it, and hide out. They never have to -see- the child, do any raising of it or anything and some men do this. Some men, sure, would love a part in the role of raising the child, but there are very few who will want to have the child ultimately. Some men and women though, do come to the agreement that the woman gives up the child. It just happens so seldom, it's rather pathetic and it can make us men look pretty selfish ourselves. A woman, in the end, -always- has accountability. We can consider it selfish if she decides to have a child aborted, despite a man saying to her face he wants to raise the baby. Yes, I consider that selfish too. But in the end, it is also selfish to force a woman through an unwanted pregnancy so some guy can get what he wants and it makes a person wonder if he didn't set up the girl for such, as likely he's an adult while she's a teenager. A teenage boy is simply not going to be able to raise a kid. That's reality. And there are men out there who do these things to trap girls, which is one of the reasons there is an age law on sexual relationships in the first place. A woman has to always make a choice when she gets pregnant. Whether she chooses to adopt, abort or carry on with the raising of the child, it is -always- her responsibility. She cannot shirk her choice because she has something growing inside her. I think sometimes people think abortion is the 'easy out' and that it is a way a woman can avoid responsibility, but in the majority of cases, it is not an easy one to make either. Most women are not return time customers that go to get an abortion because they decided they like unprotected sex. Abortions also play havoc with a woman's body and having numerous abortions pretty much means that later in life if she wanted a kid, she's likely to not be able to carry it to term. And if she gets the child aborted because she's 'childish'.. well that tells you she was not capable of raising a kid anyway. There are people who think the family of the woman should have a say or the man should, but the reality is that a child is her responsibility ultimately. There are -way- too many families and men out there that are not helpful or supportive to a girl who has very little way to support herself and that is often why children get aborted. In a perfect world... We would have a way of the perfect contraception that a woman could use to control ultimately whether she gets pregnant or not and it would be something that would be available easily so she could turn the ability to have a child on or off. We would also have a contraception for men that could be turned on or off at will so they have their say too on what they do. Then if they get a woman pregnant, they can't complain anymore either that it was a 'mistake'. However, this isn't a perfect world and men and women are not perfect.. and there's no dream land contraception that will help men and women.. teenagers.. have that ultimate control that they don't have to ingest, get a shot for or wear. And sadly, even if there were something like the perfect contraception for men and women... there is still the fact that people would try to squirm their way around things because it's human nature. We may not like to admit it but it's just how some people are. Those who don't want a kid by any chance, use protection and cover yourself. Wasting time judging others is not as important really as taking care of yourself.
Kein problem. :)
I hope you wanted the hearts still. >.>
