What would you do if

your child was Gay?

Okay you are in your mid 40s
you have a loving wife, and three sons.
Your youngest son has shown signs of being gay ever since his toddler years, and he now has crush on a boy at school.
Your son comes to asking you for advice on what he should do about his feelings. What do you do?
(respond to this thread lexamus, its the main reason I put it here).

 

I would help and support him anyway I could.

My child is my child regardless of his sexuality, if he wants to be gay so what?

 

This.

Is it weird I actually talked about something similar to this with my mom?

I asked her if I was lesbian,what she would do.
She answered the same as CtR.
It doesn't really matter what sexuality you are.
The parent should support the child even if they love the same gender;have a sickness or disease;etc.

You shouldn't stop loving your child because of who they love,because you can't change things anyway.
Is stop talking to them going to help?

 

This. I have no problem what-so-ever with homosexuality or bisexuality.

 

Of course, if they're my kid, I would love and support them no matter what. I'm all for gay right anyway, so whether the gay person is my kid or not, I'm not going to discriminate against them.

 

man idk
i mean picture goin to a family reunion and ur kid brings his bf
ill kill him in dat case lol
but seriously ill say as long as u live in my house theres no gay sh!t goin on here so wait till u move out then do watever u want
but then again id feel bad for him cuz he cant help it
its not hes fault

 

Just curious, would you react in the same way if he was straight? As in would you ban him from having his girlfriend over at the house and such?

 

no but seein 2 guys together and make out is gross

 

Yup. No reason to discriminate people for the gender of who they love.

 

Some parents let their beliefs get in the way of the love of their child. A guy from my school killed himself after his mother disowned him. He came out to her and she disowned him. I say that if a parent does that then they aren't a parent. A parent is supposed to love their child as their child regardless.

If my child did it would not be a problem, why should it? They are who they are, and it's not even like they chose to be gay. I would not change how I treat or see them in any way.

 

To some people seeing a guy and a girl together is gross.

If the rules you set your child are dependent on their sexuality then don't you think that will cause problems? For example say you ban your son from bringing his boyfriend home but you still allow his older brothers to bring their girlfriends home, that is going to cause resentment and could cause divides in the family.

 

well still i dont wanna see my son wit another guy
and if they make out idk wat i would do
i just find it nasty which is da reason i wouldnt allow it in my house but i got no problems at all with gay people
but i wouldnt treat him different

 

You just did treat him diffrently, right there.
"I wouldn't allow it in my house, but I will have hetrosexuallity in my house"

 

The fact you are not allowing him to be with his boyfriend in the house is treating him different.

 

This. Stop acting all "ewww boys kissing each other" if you're really ok with it.

 

I'd act the same,although it might take getting used to.
I wouldn't be all "don't make a scene" if that's what you mean.

 

So you wouldn't let your son have their boyfriend over? but would allow him to have girlfriends over?

 

If my son/daughter was gay, I would be totally fine with it. I mean it's who they love that matters, not the gender.

I have many friends who are Bi,Gay or Lesbian..so why treat my child any different from my friends, I love my friends equally like any of my straight friends..if they have a problem with my child or my friends being gay or whatever, Tough Shit, they have to deal with it.

This goes for inviting there Boyfriend/Girlfriend over...they would have to deal with it or leave. That is that.

 

Nope,I would let him.
I meant I wouldn't say that stuff to him.

 

I'd honestly question him to figure out how it happened, but then I'd make some ground rules involving him chasing after guys.So he doesn't get carried away and all.

I'd be shocked, easily, but ..I'd get over it.That's my son/daughter.